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The Holiday Blues vs Depression

Written by Steven Brand on . Posted in Blog, Roswell Therapist

The Holiday Blues

No it’s not a song on Bruce Springsteen’s latest album. It’s an issue millions of people struggle with.

Did you know 2/3 of women report they are depressed around the holidays? (NWHRC Study)

I think this is due in part to expectations and internalizing that they are not meeting them. Every year women think, “this year, I will get it all done”. But then so quickly December 25th sneaks up and the time has passed. Part of getting out of this rut is giving yourself …

GRACE.

Grace to get up and try again.

Grace to say, “I can’t do it anything and it’s going to be okay” or grace to say, “ I will do a little bit and accept that it is enough”.

Grace that Christmas isn’t about looking “perfect” or acting “perfect” on social media.

Grace that Christmas is only about love.

And sharing love, even in small doses.

JOY

You would be surprised how good you will feel if you made 3 people smile today. Try it!

This is especially true if you know someone who suffers from depression, it isn’t necessarily your job to make them happy, but acknowledging that they matter and sharing a little encouragement can go a long way.

A solution to turning your holiday blues around is to not spend the entire time isolated if this is your struggle.

“Social isolation is one of the biggest predictors of depression, especially during the holidays. … People who have feelings of disconnectedness often avoid social interactions at holiday time. Unfortunately, withdrawing often makes the feelings of loneliness and symptoms of depression worse.“

Small doses of getting out and participating can give you a sense of accomplishment. Driving by some lights or attending a candle light service is enough.

Find some joy this holiday by giving joy. And if you can’t give joy because of where you are at…

It’s going to be okay.

You are enough. There is plenty of grace to go around.

Merry Christmas.
Steve Brand, Roswell Therapist

Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes Can Blindside Us

Written by Steven Brand on . Posted in Blog

Autumn is approaching. With that there is one guarantee: Change.

Your first child could be starting Kindergarten or your last one could be going off to college.

You may be beginning a new job, going through a tough phase of life or just preparing for the rhythm of shorter days.

When we are not prepared for it, even positive change can blindside us. Here are five intentional adjustments that can help you thrive during life’s transitions:

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  1. Reinforce your Support System. Surrounding yourself with joyful, resourceful or helpful friends and family can be one of the most important decisions you make. Have lunch with a friend, a long phone conversation with a family member, or find a mentor who has already been through the same type of change you are experiencing.

 

  1. Exercise, Eat Healthy and Rest. This may go without saying, but change can be distracting and neglecting healthy choices can exacerbate the problem. Staying healthy will help keep your body and mind in check.

 

  1. Take time to Reflect. Recognizing possible stressors or giving time to observe your thoughts about your situation can be therapeutic. This may include keeping a journal, taking a quiet walk in the park, saying a prayer or just pausing to observe your inner thoughts.

 

  1. Be an Active Thinker. It is important to make the choice to focus on the positive aspects of life change. This involves active decision making and staying alert to rewire your negative thought patterns.

 

  1. Connect to Something Larger than Yourself. A great way to move out of a difficult time is to help someone else. Make time to volunteer somewhere, make a meal for a sick friend, or become a mentor for someone else who is also facing change.

 

Sometimes the stress of transition is more than we can handle in 5 simple steps. Steven Brand would love to help you with more in-depth processing and setting goals to achieve your personal best. To schedule an appointment, call him at (770) 641-8726.

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